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5 Think of your breath with statements or im- ages, such as: “With each breath in, I breathe in health and with each breath out, I remove unwanted feelings and thoughts.” “With each breath  I’m  becoming  more  and  more  calm and relaxed.” You may even be able to imag- ine  your  inhalations  in  colors,  textures  or temperatures.  For  instance,  “I  breathe  in  a cool, smooth and gentle blue breath.” 4.  Now, imagine being in your favorite safe and comfortable  place.  When  you  have  decided where that is, imagine it in all of your senses, increasing your sensory awareness, one sense at a time. First use sight – imagine yourself in the park. You can visualize yourself meander- ing,  seeing  all  the  things  that  are  going  on there, or focus on a single item in the park. Visualize  a  big  knotty  tree  or  a  flowering shrub. After you “see” what’s there, you can imagine the park with your other senses. What do you hear, smell or feel? If you have a good imagination, you can even smell the trees and GUIDED IMAGERY Cont. from page 3 foliage. The longer you “stay in” the place you choose  (you  can  always  decide  when  you want to leave) the more relaxed you’ll be. If you are afraid you will fall asleep and miss an appointment,  you  can  set  an  alarm  or  ask someone to check on you at a certain time. 5.  When  you  are  in  this  very  relaxed  state  of heightened awareness, you can think of vari- ous  suggestions  for  stress  reduction  or  self- improvement. If you perform this exercise (or any  other  one  that  is  contained  in  the  re- sources  below)  at  least  two  to  three  times weekly, you will probably feel immediate re- sults.  The  more  frequently  and  longer  the sessions and the more appropriate the imag- ery and suggestions, the more positive results you will feel. Other stress-relieving activities may include meditation, visualization, prayer, time shared with a friend or family member, a massage, or therapy, etc.  Most  importantly  you  must  have  positive feelings and thoughts about what you are experi- encing. _____________________________________ Darcy F. Wallen, CSW. is the program coordinator for BiNetSM,Inc.  and  Comprehensive  Outreach. IT’S NOT CHILD’S PLAY Cont. from page 1 kill thousands of people they don’t even know for no good reason. But I couldn’t say that. I don’t believe in lying to chil- dren.  They  find  out  the  truth  anyway and  then  they  learn  not  to  trust  their parents. Random violence leaves adults feeling  out  of  control  and  powerless. But for a child whose world view was grounded in the triumph of good and the toppling of evil, random violence is completely devastating. It’s the demoli- tion of the metaphysical “blankie” and the annihilation of all innocence. As the weeks passed, I noticed Mo was progressing  from  lack  of  comprehension to a dogged determination to rebuild some- thing positive. He became obsessive about constructing Lego towers and shutting his baby brother out of the room once he was done. Predictably, each time he built, there were two structures. “These are the twin towers,” he ex- plained, “and I’m not going to let any- body destroy them this time.” And then with a sneaky smile, “That’s why I can’t let the baby in.” Reading  the  paper  and  watching  the news,  I  see  that  Mo’s  views  and  actions mirror those of many of the adults in this country. After the shock came a deep de- sire  to  somehow  help  out  in  a  tangible way and finally, we sought revenge with the war against the Taliban. In Mo’s mind, dumping the rubble in Afghanistan is akin to revenge of the most about whether he will lead a happy and carefree life is creeping over him. Like most children, he has always had great fun   projecting   what   life   will   be   like when he is grown. “I’m going to build my  own  house.  I’ll  be  the  Daddy  and you’ll be the Mommy.” He’s pronounced this  hundreds  of  times,  but  last  week his face darkened when he repeated his fantasy.  He  looked  at  me  straight  on, without   blinking,   and   asked,   “Will Osama still be around then?” ”Not   if   you   have   anything   to   do with  it,  Mo,”  was  my  earnest  answer. No, not if you have anything to do with it. In an instant, his face brightened. He smiled broadly and somehow I felt then that  hope  would  sprout  anew  before long.  Mo’s  generation  will  yet  reclaim its childhood. Ellie Schlam is Director of Public Relations at the America Kidney Foundation. She is the mother of  four  children  and  contributing  writer  to  The Comprehensive Network Newsletter. …trauma leaves debris in the brain that needs to be cleared out before victims can heal. satisfying kind. They brought this horror on us, so let’s make them suffer with the remains,  he  was  undoubtedly  thinking. His plan would once again restore justice to the world. But beyond the actions and thoughts of today, my little boy’s vision of his own future is clouding over. A new uncertainty JUST ONE MORE STORY On September 11th, Susan Elgart who has been “manning” our reception desk since 1989 was busy call- ing  out  as  well  as answering calls. Her son,   Jeffrey,   who works  at  what  has become  known  as “Ground Zero,” could not be found. We were all immensely grateful when her daugh- ter-in-law called a few hours later to say that he had just managed to get to a phone to let her know  that  a  strange  set  of  circumstances  had delayed him that morning. By the time he ar- rived at work, the first plane had already hit the building. He never got to work — but he did eventually get home. Only a few months before he  was  offered  –  but  turned  down  –  a  more lucrative  position  in  the  WTC  Building  Two. The people interviewing with him and the in- Cont. on page 6